Then, just when you thought your dreams have all come true (i.e you're finally in med school and in a country where they have four seasons) - you find yourself struggling to fit in with the local people. You don't understand them, they don't understand you; you never get their jokes, they never get yours. Eventually, you just give up and stick to your own kind, who by 3 years time are starting to show signs of annoyance at seeing your pathetic face day in day out as you blabber about your miserable existence.
But you don't give up. You have a medical degree to chase. You can't let small setbacks bring you down. And so you keep pushing on, taking those small baby steps as the geniuses around you make extraordinary leaps into greatness. You watch them with envy, wishing you were just a little bit smarter, if not a tiny bit luckier. But you aren't. So as the days stretch by, you've resorted yourself to drown in gloom alone in your room.
Sometimes you try seeking solace in friends back home whom you thought knew you well enough to understand. But as you desperately try to fish for their sympathy, you somehow remember that these are the same friends you alienated years ago for your own selfish reasons. They don't say it out loud, but they hate your guts. They think you're a snob, mostly cos they've long stereotyped you into that category of snobbish med students who dance and play in a magical place across oceans and seas, where (supposedly) snow falls from the sky like wisps of cotton candy.
They can't be more wrong.
But still, sensing their coldness towards you, you start to slowly but surely shy away from these so-called friends of yours (who seem to hate you with a vengeance). Confused, frustrated and alone... nobody ever grasp how miserable you truly are. You keep thinking "Why do people hate me so much?"
You cry yourself to sleep at night, waiting for that phone call from your parents (the only people who'll love you no matter what), only to realize that they won't be calling in the next month or two cos they're off somewhere doing their thing.
Alas, you've come to the awful yet very real conclusion:
"Life as an overseas medical student is not all that great~"
[based loosely on the true story of a struggling med student]
p/s: I'm not yet qualified to diagnose anyone, but all this hu-ha tells me that the prognosis looks grim for people reading medicine. [To all my fellow med-student friends: BE STRONG!!!]Read this: Many medical students suffer from depression
and this: At least 5 doctors to suffer from mental woes every month
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aaaa... izyan..~
jgn r sedey sgt...
gambatte ney~~..
mari kite b'usaha~~~~....
KJ..
I reaalllyy wish I can put myself in your shoes...
I reaalllyy wish I can do my bit in any way possible to convince you (and me) that life is forever unfair, but remember His words, He tests you base on your strength, no more, no less..
You are strong.
You need to be strong..
Go on and achieve your goals.
Become one hell of a great doctor, and make me proud :)
Go girl!!
And so that you know, a friend back home is a person who always keeps the past behind her. At least the unnecessary ones :P
p/s: sorry bout the promise of posting multiple posts. The illness comes and goes endlessly. Take a reaaalllyyy good care of yourself now :)
Izzi,
I feel you sis.
I personally think you expect too much of yourself. If expectations are not met.. well you know the drill.
I wish I have silver lining words to motivate you, but I dont. It's far more complicated than this. I know, I've been thru similar hurdle.
Just so you know, I'm online 24/7. We can talk about your anime/manga addiction :P
Till then, be strong!
psych0mie - Yes, emy... Mari!!
lemonvanilla - you know i always think of you as a dear friend, regardless of all the silly misunderstandings we've had in the past. And you make sure you eat your meds and get well quickly so that you can gv me those multiple posts like you promised! I wait with eagerness!! =)
NoktahHitam - you're very sweet. i might just take you up on that offer. (plus, tempting me with manga/anime... hahaha, aren't you a sly one?!) ;)
I am so standing in your shoes!! Dua thn lepas mase akak balik msia, ingt nk la kongsi few pics mase kat Ire. Ye la, we've been sharing ev'thg since secondary school. To my horror, most of them said that I was trying to show off! Arghh..sengal.
Anyway, you know you're waaaayyy better than what other people labeled you as. And...I would say, "Screw u!" to those morons who thinks otherwise. Bwahahaha
"SCREW THEM!!"
hahahaha... K.farah, you ooze with coolness~
Anyway, i now declare you my bestest and favoritest senior of the year 07/08. hehehe.. do i need to gv you a choc bar now? =P
Did we have any though?
Silly misunderstandings?
I can't seem to remember one :P
Hahaha.
Anyway, we were so young and yet so so immature.
Nothing beats wonderful memories we had gone through though =)
Anyway,
I dedicated this Kidrock's song for you.
[Imagine me singing this to you with a guitar,though I didn't know how to play one, but, just close your eyes and listen to my sheryl crow's voice in your head :P]
'God knows why' >>
People don't know about the things
i say and do
they don't understand
about the shit that i've been through,
it's been so long since i've been home
i've been gone,
i've been gone for way too long
maybe i forgot all the things I miss
Oh somehow I know there's more to life than this,
I said it too many times
and i still stand firm
you get what you put in
and people get what they deserve,
still i ain't seen mine
No I ain't seen mine
I've been giving just ain't been gettin'
I've been walking down that line
So I think I'll keep walking
with my head held high
i'll keep moving on and only God
knows why
Yeay!
My comment dah panjang!
Hahaha..
Cheer up!
Remember neh,
only God knows why =)
Tak aci!! your comment panjang dgn kidrock's words je.. hehehe.
anyways, thanks dear...
and you're right, i can't remember us ever fighting, or having any misunderstandings.
....or is my memory growing arid with age? hehehe....
either way, you're a very precious friend to me.
Anything to help you sleep better at night ;)
Ahhh, now you're just teasing me. LoL!
Heh
single-worded comment??
C'mon laa Balong... you know you can do better than that! =P
Cepat2... gv me your (abah-like) motivational speech.
i crave your rare words of encouragements like a hungry squirrel craves those rare treats of acorn in the winter~
ww....c'mon Izyan, u r much stronger than you think u r..dont ever feel guilty with what u r achieving right now..
Life is about winning and competing..just because u think most ppl hate u so much doesnt necessarily mean that u have to change direction n follow their lead..
Just continue on achieving ur longing medical degree and.... who knows? probably one day you might realize that these same ppl ur talking about, would pester u behind for ur medical service..!
hehe..cheer up, think positive! life isnt that bad after all huh izzy..?=)
Naj!!! my ex-IRP mate!
Fancy seeing you here... hehe =P
Thank you for those motivating words. I'm sure if we try hard enough, we can become the brightest batch of doctors the world has ever seen... [oh, sungguh tinggi cita-cita~]
Ehehe..
So, any chance i can crash at your place sometime? Dah lama tak jenguk Dublin. Plus, i've been dying to see your new place... looks mewah in pictures... (Gosh, you Dubliners are sooo bloody lucky!) =)
haha..IRP berjaya! =p sometimes I do miss our moments back then in KMB...haha...
Of course u girls can come here, plus Hana is staying in the same house too..my spacious bed is waiting for you...~~
Our xm will start on 12th Jan & habis xm on the 28th. Will be leaving Dublin on early Feb tho. Maybe it's best if u girls could come during this period right before we left Dublin. At least i would have the chance to say a proper goodbye kan kat ex-classmates...=)
Alaaa Naj, when you put it that way, sedih plak bunyinya..
We shud really have another gathering laa... kena mintak Buden set it up.. dia semangat sikit handle2 gathering ni =)
But if that doesn't happen, i'm still gonna turun Dublin at least once before you girls leave...
Has it really been 2 and half years already??? cepatnye time flies by, eh?~
No. Im not teasing you. You know where to find me.
ohhh, i've got plenty of choc bars. Tapi if u insist, akak mahu lamb shish kat charcoal grill satu!! (haha..demand =p)
NoktahHitam - ................................
(I'm speechless. seriously!)
Anyways, Thanks... now i know where to find myself a complete stranger to talk to when i start going crazy~ =P
(pssst... You do realize there's an 8 hr time diff between M'sia and Eire, right?)
fAraHnaDiaH - Boleh K. Farah.. boleh. After all, you've only got roughly a month to harp on the coveted title. LoL!
So, anytime after exams sound ok to you? ^___^
Izzi. I sleep at 9am. That's 1 am in Eire. Like I've said on my blog, I'm Batman. I save the world from ugly web developers :P
Nah, you won't go crazy. I can already see you grin.
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